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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#1. Go to bed at the same time.</strong><br />Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#2. Cultivate common interests.</strong><br />After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.</strong><br />Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.</strong><br />If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.</strong><br />If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br />Read more at http://goweloveit.info/lifestyle/10-habits-of-happy-couples-5-is-the-most-valuable-advice-ever/#pC5g8mK2wY9RETdU.99</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.</strong><br />Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.</strong><br />This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.</strong><br />This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.</strong><br />Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.</strong><br />Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">If there was one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, “Just Listen” and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable. <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span></span></div>
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10 Habits of Happy Couples. #5 Will Blow Your Mind

Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, it...

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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: large;">Let me add the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now. The first thing<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;"> that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Nigerians.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the Uk. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they(even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be contented and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">We have Nigerian Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving “ parents.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I often get calls from anxious parents, saying “my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and me, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dresses to the nines, in his dad’s spanking new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">“Of course, it is per month”</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”<br />“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”<br />No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I learnt the children of a former Nigeria Head of State with all the stolen(billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several time because of the drug, they collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go. What a life! No one wants to marry them.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Henry Ford said “hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?</span></div>
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