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Cheating: Confirmed Past Time of Several Men and Women and is a Shame!

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This is an article i came across about cheating and is a horrible reminder of whats going on around us and it also shows that God will soon put an end to all of it....... 
  Men: 
 Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you have a nice body cause we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. 
 Whether it’s evolution, biology or simple novelty, infidelity researchers agree that men do seek different sex partners. 
 Maybe he married too young,”  “or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.” 
 When some time has passed, they get bored and long for new excitement from another. 
 They also get tired of their woman's nagging. 
 So when their partner is tired from wrangling kids all day and unwilling to try new things, even the most loyal hubbies get bored and go looking for nookie. 
 More sexually permissive men who don’t have equally adventurous partners are also more apt to wander. 
 It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips. 
 Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives. 
 
 Women: 
 
 Now when a woman feels dissatisfied in her relationship, she doesn’t just complain to her friends. She gets a private email account, posts a profile at one of the many dating sites and starts looking for hookups herself. 
 Accurate stats on women’s infidelity are understandably hard to come by since ladies aren’t always keen on ’fessing up to their extracurricular activities. 
 “Women tend to keep these things to themselves, but there are signs that they’re catching up with the guys.” 
 The easy answer is that women today have the same opportunities to cheat as guys always did 
 Not only do working women have the chance to mix and mingle with would-be lovers (both in the office and on business trips), but the Internet is filled with chat rooms and Web sites that blatantly court married men and women looking for a little something on the side. 
 When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else becomes extremely seductive. 
 If there’s a failure to communicate – which is so reinforcing to women in terms of intimacy, emotional satisfaction and relationship satisfaction – then women look outside the relationship for that kind of connection, 
 When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere.” 
 When you start doing things separately, your odds of connecting with others who share your interests increase, 
 Woman seek the thrill of the chase and like the attention a new man will give her. 
 Women who have false illusions tend to end up cheating because they never really knew the guy to begin with... or hoped he would change,” 
 You can be in a relationship with a perfectly wonderful, loving man and still need extra affirmation that you’ve got it goin’ on. 
 Sleeping with someone else is an easy way to remind yourself that you’re desirable. 
 “Even if your partner is reassuring, for whatever reason, it’s not enough,” “and so you look elsewhere, so you can feel like you’re lovable.” 
 And when a woman catches her man with his hand in someone else’s cookie jar, she figures she’s got a right to a little indulgence of her own. 
 If a woman finds out her significant other has been cheating, she may heal those hurt feelings by having sex with another man,” 
 It's estimated that up to 55% of women and 60% of men cheat at some point during their marriages. 
 
Note: 
 “Cheating is defined as anything that breaches a relationship contract.” 
 “That includes “sexy communication and flirting that’s kept secret from your partner.” 
  These things happen everyday throughout the world and the only way to stay clear of it all is to find someone who puts God first in their lives and is determined to stay on the right path. Also, by having God in your lives and together serving him, all the nagging and boredom won't be as big of an issue, cause God is your strength. 
 Remember, the devil likes cheaters and wants to see your downfalls, don't let him win. 
  A little tip.....Remember why you fell in love and always be thankful for everything you have. 
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Cheating: Confirmed Past Time of Several Men and Women and is a Shame!

Cheating..... This is an article i came across about cheating and is a horrible reminder of whats going on around us and it als...

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When You're In a Good Relationship, You Learn These 10 Things

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I'd had serious relationships before meeting my fiancé, with a couple lasting for years. I thought I was an adult; I thought I knew how to be a great girlfriend. Meeting someone I had a serious connection with taught me that nothing I had experienced before was real. True love feels different than casual relationships -- even if those relationships lasted for years (which is usually well past their expiration date!). When you're in a good relationship, you learn things. You act differently and you think as part of a team -- not as an individual making their way through the world. You'll be more understanding and accepting of your partner, instead of just getting frustrated with them, like you may have with past relationships.</div>
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1. Misunderstandings are inevitable. Misunderstandings are going to happen. If you take your partner's words one way, then learn they meant something totally different, don't punish him or her. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only going to bruise the relationship and cause communication problems later. Sometimes what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and you'll get frustrated that your partner doesn't understand. Take a step back and realize it's not a big deal. Misunderstandings only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be laid-back and forgive misunderstandings.</div>
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2. Trust. You have to trust your partner. Why would you share your life with someone when you think they're doing something wrong every time you turn your back? If you don't trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring or anything else, then you're not in a good relationship. The best relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up (and they will!), the trust is strong enough to keep you together.</div>
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3. Let yourselves miss each other. You're in love, so you want to be together all the time! It's so fun to cuddle all night and be together all day, but when will you have time to experience different things? When you go to separate work places or schools, you're experiencing things that will give you something to talk about later. When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, then you're having time and space to yourself, then coming back to each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.</div>
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4. Encourage growth and change. In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live -- you should explore it to the fullest! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give this support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you're going to have a very boring life together.</div>
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5. Compromising doesn't mean you're weak. Compromising doesn't mean "giving in." It doesn't mean that you lost the fight. In fact, it's the opposite. Do you know how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way because it sounds right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base with their suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. What's the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don't be afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The important thing is not getting your way, it's staying in your relationship and helping it grow. Compromising will definitely help your relationship grow.</div>
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6. Admit your weaknesses. Your partner doesn't expect you to be a superhero, and hopefully you don't expect that of them! We're all human; we all have flaws. It's OK to let these show. In fact, to have a stable, serious relationship, you need to let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more sensitive to things that bother you, and can help build you up in areas where you need some help.</div>
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7. Sometimes you can only accept things, not fix them. People have baggage. You have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope! You're stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that sometimes, you can't fix things. You can't make problems go away. You have to accept it and get over it and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.</div>
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8. Forgive quickly and truly. Whenever you have a fight, don't worry about who wins or who loses. Learn from the fight -- from what was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That's all well and good, but you're not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over, you're past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner, because the resentment will build until you don't want to be with them.</div>
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9. Never expect anything. Don't expect your partner to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It's not going to happen. You can't expect anything from anyone -- you have to make your desires known. Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you, but still -- don't expect anything!</div>
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10. Show your feelings. The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play games. Don't tease your partner; don't "reward" good deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them -- it doesn't matter -- they just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don't get me wrong. But make sure you're showing your feelings in a way so they won't be misunderstood (back to #1!).</div>
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