Cheating: Confirmed Past Time of Several Men and Women and is a Shame!

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="_4-u3 _5cla" style="border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-top-style: none; padding: 16px;"> <div class="clearfix" style="zoom: 1;"> <h2 class="_5clb" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Cheating.....</span></span></h2> <div> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div> <img alt="" height="500" src="http://www.redbookmag.com/cm/redbook/images/Tl/rbk-couple-smiling-bed-lgn.jpg" style="border: 0px; display: block; margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; vertical-align: bottom;" width="375" /></div> <div> <br /></div> </div> <div class="_5k3v _5k3w clearfix" style="margin-top: 16px; word-wrap: break-word; zoom: 1;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">This is an article i came across about cheating and is a horrible reminder of whats going on around us and it also shows that God will soon put an end to all of it.......</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Men:</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you have a nice body cause we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Whether it’s evolution, biology or simple novelty, infidelity researchers agree that men do seek different sex partners.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Maybe he married too young,”  “or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">When some time has passed, they get bored and long for new excitement from another.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">They also get tired of their woman's nagging.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">So when their partner is tired from wrangling kids all day and unwilling to try new things, even the most loyal hubbies get bored and go looking for nookie.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">More sexually permissive men who don’t have equally adventurous partners are also more apt to wander.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Women:</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><em></em></span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><em style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Now when a woman feels dissatisfied in her relationship, she doesn’t just complain to her friends. She gets a private email account, posts a profile at one of the many dating sites and starts looking for hookups herself.</span></em><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><em></em>Accurate stats on women’s infidelity are understandably hard to come by since ladies aren’t always keen on ’fessing up to their extracurricular activities.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">“Women tend to keep these things to themselves, but there are signs that they’re catching up with the guys.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">The easy answer is that women today have the same opportunities to cheat as guys always did</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Not only do working women have the chance to mix and mingle with would-be lovers (both in the office and on business trips), but the Internet is filled with chat rooms and Web sites that blatantly court married men and women looking for a little something on the side.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else becomes extremely seductive.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">If there’s a failure to communicate – which is so reinforcing to women in terms of intimacy, emotional satisfaction and relationship satisfaction – then women look outside the relationship for that kind of connection,</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">When you start doing things separately, your odds of connecting with others who share your interests increase,</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Woman seek the thrill of the chase and like the attention a new man will give her.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Women who have false illusions tend to end up cheating because they never really knew the guy to begin with... or hoped he would change,”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">You can be in a relationship with a perfectly wonderful, loving man and still need extra affirmation that you’ve got it goin’ on.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Sleeping with someone else is an easy way to remind yourself that you’re desirable.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">“Even if your partner is reassuring, for whatever reason, it’s not enough,” “and so you look elsewhere, so you can feel like you’re lovable.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">And when a woman catches her man with his hand in someone else’s cookie jar, she figures she’s got a right to a little indulgence of her own.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">If a woman finds out her significant other has been cheating, she may heal those hurt feelings by having sex with another man,”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">It's estimated that up to 55% of women and 60% of men cheat at some point during their marriages.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Note:</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">“Cheating is defined as anything that breaches a relationship contract.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">“That includes “sexy communication and flirting that’s kept secret from your partner.”</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">These things happen everyday throughout the world and the only way to stay clear of it all is to find someone who puts God first in their lives and is determined to stay on the right path. Also, by having God in your lives and together serving him, all the nagging and boredom won't be as big of an issue, cause God is your strength.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;">Remember, the devil likes cheaters and wants to see your downfalls, don't let him win.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">A little tip.....Remember why you fell in love and always be thankful for everything you have.</span></span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> </div> <div class="_5clc" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 15px; padding: 0px 12px 12px;"> <form action="https://www.facebook.com/ajax/ufi/modify.php" class="live_1837630839996_316526391751760 commentable_item autoexpand_mode" data-ft="{"tn":"]"}" data-live="{"seq":"1837630839996_10201464120604401"}" id="u_0_1" method="post" rel="async" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> <div class="_5pcp _5vsi" style="color: #999999; margin-top: 10px;"> <span data-reactid=".0"></span></div> </form> </div> </div>

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Why Women Friends Don't Tell Each Other The Truth

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I love my women friends but when I want to hear the truth, I ask a man.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">This is only something I've become aware of over the last few years -- which means it took me a long time to come to this realization. It's not that men are more insightful when it comes to relationships, it's that they tend to be less aware of the need to be diplomatic. Part of the reason for this is that most men don't "hang out" with women in groups, where the main goal is to bolster our self-esteem and empower one another. So they don't instinctively know our culture of mutual support. For women, our gift can often be our curse.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">No, this doesn't apply to every woman (or every man). But it does apply to a lot of women (and men), at least in regard to friendships -- until much later in life, when women grow weary of being subtle and 100% supportive, or we stop traveling in packs and editing our words as carefully. That's when we're more likely to let it rip.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I'm not a scientist, but I'm pretty sure the tendency for women to want to avoid hurting someone else's feelings is part nature, part crappy experiences that make us more empathetic than the average Joe. So much so, that by the time a woman reaches her mid-twenties, there have been enough emotional blows that our diplomatic skills have become finely tuned. (Some women are flat out bitter by then, but bitter is the stuff of reality TV, not friendships.) When you toss in what happens when a woman becomes a mother, or an aunt -- how we develop a more acute awareness of the power of words -- well, any woman who is tuned-in knows it gets harder to say what you mean for fear of sounding critical, and hurting a sister's feelings. And I don't care how many mean-girl movies you've seen -- those mean girls usually grow up at some point.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's true that focusing on the positive is a good thing -- but it's not always helpful in the long run. A woman might tell another woman that her hair looks fabulous to avoid saying everything else is a hot mess -- but her friend may show up again somewhere in her hot mess outfit and may be embarrassed when someone less kind points it out.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Of course, not everyone who is diplomatic is doing it for the other person's sake. Sometimes it's just a great way to avoid drama and conflict. And who wants to be in the middle of that? It's easier just to tell a friend she looks wonderful...even if she doesn't.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Most of the time, women want to support one another to such a degree that they will "yes" a friend into doing something brave or bold, something she may not have the nerve to do on her own -- but with a posse of women friends who have her back, she feels as if she can do anything. All that encouragement and support can be intoxicating. The trouble is, sometimes it's not really the best thing to do. Though we want to be supportive and not a Debbie-downer, it can keep friends from facing an important truth -- a truth it's better to know. Maybe a guy doesn't call back for a reason that nobody wants to admit out loud? Maybe getting fired repeatedly is not just bad luck, but something else? Maybe you shouldn't actually "go for it" because everyone but you can see that "it" is not who you are or what you excel at?</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Which leads me to the question of the day: Who is the better friend, the person who tells you the truth, not because she is bitter or jealous, but because she wants the best for you? Or the person who withholds the truth to keep you from feeling badly about yourself?</span></div> <div style="border-bottom-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; font-weight: bold; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">EARLIER ON HUFF/POST50:</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;"> </div> <div class="hp-slideshow-wrapper-loading" id="hp-slideshow-wrapper-250597" style="border: 0px; height: 555px !important; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 10px !important; width: 570px !important;"> <div class="hp-slideshow-wrapper-loading-div" style="border-bottom-left-radius: 8px; border-bottom-right-radius: 8px; border-top-left-radius: 8px; border-top-right-radius: 8px; border: 0px; box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498039) 0px 4px 6px; list-style: none; margin: 40% 180px auto !important; padding: 10px; text-align: center;"> <span style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; 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<div class="storyHead"> <h1 itemprop="headline name"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">When Natasha Devon accepted a friend's challenge to date 60 men in two months, she quickly learnt that nearly all men fall into the same traps</span></h1> <div class="artIntro"> <div id="storyEmbSlide"> <div class="slideshow ssIntro"> <div class="nextPrevLayer"> <div class="ssImg"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><img alt="Joseph Gordon Levitt and Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer" height="387" itemprop="image" src="http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/02972/500daysofsummer_2972136b.jpg" width="620" /></span><div class="artImageExtras"> <div class="ingCaptionCredit"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="caption">Date night: Joseph Gordon Levitt and Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer</span> </span></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="oneHalf gutter"> <div class="story"> <div class="cl"> </div> <div class="bylineComments"> <div> <div class="bylineImg"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><img alt="Natasha Devon" border="0" height="60" src="http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/02908/natasha-devon_2908748j.jpg" width="60" /></span></div> <div class="bylineBody"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">By <span rel="author">Natasha Devon</span></span></div> </div> <div class="publishedDate"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">8:11AM BST 15 Jul 2014</span></div> <div class="comments"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><img alt="Comments" src="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/template/ver1-0/i/share/comments.gif" /><a dsqid="10961939" href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/10961939/Ten-dating-mistakes-that-men-always-make.html#disqus_thread" sl-processed="1">88 Comments</a></span></div> <div class="cl"> </div> </div> <div id="mainBodyArea" itemprop="articleBody"> <div class="firstPar"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Eighteen months ago, I was a long-term singleton. I’d decided that my taste in men had become a little too stringent and restrictive (i.e. I always dated the same sort of guy and was left feeling bemused when they kept showing themselves to be scoundrels). So, I was set a challenge by my friends, in hope of changing the status quo – I was to join a dating site and I HAD TO accept every date I was asked on over the next six weeks.</span></div> <div class="secondPar"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">A month and a half later I’d been on nearly 60 first dates (and can confirm that it is truly exhausting having to represent only the most palatable aspects of your personality over a prolonged period, I don’t know how the Duchess of Cambridge does it). I dated every type of man you could possibly think of, from every possible profession and background, ranging from 23 to 65 years old. I learned quite a lot about humanity, I like to think.</span></div> <div class="thirdPar"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I also noticed a few common dating faux pas nearly all men make. That’s not to say that aren’t totally understandable……But they’re also massive turn-offs (hence why the sixty first dates only resulted in one second date). So, here they are, my gift to you, single men of Britain:</span></div> <div class="fourthPar"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong></strong></span></div> <div class="fifthPar"> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">1. 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Please do not arrange to meet us at the Tube station and then say, “so, where do you fancy going?” This question fills us with dread. We spent three hours getting ready for this thing. We’ve done our bit. We just want to be taken somewhere nice, please.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Bonus points if you say something like “I was thinking about going here as I’ve heard it’s great, unless you had somewhere in mind you’d prefer?” This shows you are decisive AND flatters our feminist sensibilities. We will swoon.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">2. Saying “so why is a beautiful girl like you single?”</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">This is a stupid question on a couple of levels. First of all it makes us think you’re the sort of bloke who believes the dating game is just one long queue of girls, all of whom are DESPERATE for a boyfriend and are standing in order of physical attractiveness, waiting for the next man to walk past. Life is not the television show Take Me Out and we don’t want to go out with a man who thinks it is. Secondly, it immediately makes us wonder why YOU’RE single, before concluding that you’re probably either a serial killer, one of those guys that has a house full of "love dolls" or secretly married.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">We know you’re trying to pay us a compliment and that’s lovely, but just telling us we look nice is fine.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">3. Admitting you’re nervous.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">This is the sort of admission that should only ever happen in retrospect. If it’s five years hence, you’re married and you’re having all your other married friends over for dinner one evening then by all means say “you know the first time I took Sarah out I was SO nervous I had to dash to the toilet seven times in the half hour I was waiting for her to arrive”*. This will seem sweet when we know and love you. Before that, however, it’s just a bit weird.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">*This example assumes that your partner is called Sarah. Toilet-based anecdotes about girls you dated who aren’t your present girlfriend/wife are almost never acceptable.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">4. Acting like you don’t care.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Having said the above, behaving as though we are utterly disposable and as though this is the sort of thing you do every night isn’t very attractive either. Even if you DO go on dates with different women every night, making us feel special, unique and cherished is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship and also, more short term, the non-negotiable key to getting into our knickers. Things that will make us think you aren’t giving the date sufficient gravitas include yawning, playing with your phone* and turning up in any sort of sportswear.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">5. *Playing with your phone</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Put. The. Phone. Away. PLEASE.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">6. Asking a question then looking really disinterested as soon as the answer comes.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Sounds really obvious, but you’d be surprised how many guys do this. It’s as though they’re actually there purely to soak up the ambience of the pub and their date’s company has been requested solely so they don’t look like a Billy No Mates. Do not ask us something, then glance lazily around (especially not at other girls in the vicinity) as soon as we open our mouths to respond. This is not how a conversation is supposed to go and however subtle you think you’re being, we always notice.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Call us demanding, but in addition to expressing a verbal interest in our lives, we expect you to stick around in the conversation long enough to hear our response.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">7. Saying ‘tell me something about you no one else knows’.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Right, first of all, we are women and by our nature confessional – there’s virtually nothing that, between them, our Mum, best friend and most trusted work colleague don’t know about us. Secondly, even if there was, we’re hardly likely to share this scintillating fact with someone who was, 14 minutes ago, a complete stranger. Thirdly, this then puts us on the spot to recall something really unusual and ‘zany’ about ourselves, at which point every zany and unusual thing we have ever thought or done will immediately evaporate from our memory and there will be a cavernous, awkward silence during which we will both wish we were dead.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">8. Doing the ‘mid-point date assessment’.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">If there is one sentence guaranteed to kill any sort of spark it’s “so, how do you think it’s going?”. We do not wish to analyse this date halfway through it, with you, thank you. We wish to analyse it with our best girlfriends – initially via the medium of text whilst you are in the loo and then further the next evening over several glasses of Pinot Grigio.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">9. Bad-mouthing other dates you have been on.</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">This is the dating equivalent of being the office gossip who spend their days spreading spurious personal information from desk-to-desk and then wonders why they aren’t invited to the pub at six o'clock. Your dating horror stories are fascinating and we will be enthusiastic because we really, really want to hear them. But we’ll also then immediately be on our guard, wondering if this date is a future anecdote for another date you might go on.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">If you’re interested in watching in horror as someone second-guesses each word that comes out of their face in case it’s used to incriminate them at a further juncture, may I suggest instead watching Question Time.</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">10. Talking about your ex/Asking about her ex</strong><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Ah, the holy grail. We all know we shouldn’t do it. Every magazine article, dating manual and wise older person has warned us against this particular pitfall for as long as we can remember. Yet for some reason I was asked about my ex on approximately 80% of the dates I went on and, as a direct consequence, I actually ended up missing my ex a little bit.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">To be avoided. At all costs.</span><br /> <br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">And here’s some "dos":</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">- SMILE! - It doesn’t cost anything and it makes you look sexy.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">- Insist on paying - A controversial one, this. We’re always happy to go halves or even to pay for the whole thing BUT if you absolutely insist we’ll assume you’re having deeply loving feelings towards us.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">- Walk us to the station/put us in a cab/in some way show that you are bothered about what might befall us during our journey home.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">- Text immediately you get in to say what a lovely night you had - Even if it’s a lie. It’s just British good manners.</span><br /> <br /> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Et voila. Happy dating, fellas!</span></div> </div> </div> </div>

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