Friendship Finds A Way

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="pw pw-widget ra1-pw-classicWidget ra1-pw_size_small pw-layout-horizontal pw-counter-horizontal pw-widget-look-native" style="font-family: Verdana, Tahoma !important; font-size: 1px !important; line-height: 1px !important; margin-top: 7px;"> <a class="pw-button pw-button-facebook button-type-looknative pw-size-small pw-button-counter-horizontal look-native" href="https://www.blogger.com/null" style="background-attachment: initial !important; background-clip: initial !important; background-image: none !important; background-origin: initial !important; background-position: initial !important; background-repeat: initial !important; background-size: initial !important; border: none !important; box-sizing: content-box; color: #0099ff; display: inline-block !important; height: auto !important; line-height: 12px !important; margin: 0px 10px 1px 0px !important; outline: none; padding: 0px !important; vertical-align: bottom; white-space: nowrap;"><span class="pw-button-type-looknative" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding-box; background-clip: padding-box; background-color: #435fac; background-image: linear-gradient(rgb(74, 103, 183) 0px, rgb(60, 86, 162) 100%); border-bottom-left-radius: 4px; border-bottom-right-radius: 4px; border-color: rgb(72, 101, 181) rgb(45, 68, 135) rgb(45, 68, 135); border-style: solid; border-top-left-radius: 4px; border-top-right-radius: 4px; border-width: 1px; box-sizing: content-box; cursor: pointer; display: inline-block; height: 18px !important; position: relative; vertical-align: top;"><span class="pw-icon ra1-pw-icon ra1-pw-icon-facebook" style="background: url(http://i.po.st/static/v3/img/post-native.png) 0px 0px; box-sizing: content-box; cursor: pointer; display: inline-block !important; height: 12px; left: 3px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; position: absolute; top: 3px; vertical-align: top; width: 12px;">FB</span></span></a></div> <div class="feelgood" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; overflow: hidden; position: relative;"> <div style="color: #222222; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> <a class="group1" href="http://www.sunnyskyz.com/uploads/2014/09/043c0-games.jpg" style="color: #0099ff; outline: none; text-decoration: none;"><img class="largeimg" src="http://www.sunnyskyz.com/uploads/2014/09/043c0-games.jpg" style="float: right; margin: 0px 0px 10px 20px; max-width: 350px;" /></a>When there is a will, there is a way. Caleb's buddy, Ike, missed him very much. I went to the kids room earlier today and played with Ike for a bit, and he asked how Caleb was doing, and so did Caleb's other friend Casey. We said our goodbyes and I headed back to Caleb's room.</div> <div style="color: #222222; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> Ike rolled over in his wheelchair and knocked on the door because he wanted to say hello. But Caleb is unable to leave his room, so I grabbed some rubber gloves and a controller and gave it to Ike outside the glass doors.</div> <div style="color: #222222; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> Now they are having a blast playing Call of Duty. Love seeing these guys smiling and just being kids.</div> </div> </div>

Friendship Finds A Way

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7 Ways Traveling Can Refresh Your Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <img alt="Ways Traveling Can Refresh Your Relationship" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-1873" height="333" src="http://womanitely.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Ways-Traveling-Can-Refresh-Your-Relationship.jpg?e343f1" style="font-size: medium; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" width="500" /></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">There are moments when you and your partner realize that you need something new in your relationship. You would like to experience new emotions and feelings, which may fire up your love. When you travel together, you share common goals, enhance closeness and usually have a better romance. Furthermore, you have an opportunity to discuss basic things, have fun and share secrets with your sweetheart. You don’t have to put many efforts to fulfill this dream since traveling is absolutely available today. Everything depends on you and your desire to have a good time with your significant other. If you have already decided to travel, then you should agree your plans with your loved one, if it’s not a secret or surprise.</span></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Many couples say that traveling together helps refresh any relationship. When you’re relaxed you have more chances to experience new pleasures. So if you feel that intimacy is missing from your relationship, you should find time to travel together. Here are a few ways traveling can refresh your relationship.</span></span></div> </h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">1. Making memories together</span></span></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Every moment of time spent with your partner creates a basis for your relationship. Your memories are your common riches and achievements. Since life is too short you should try to create as many pleasant memories as you can. When you become old, you’ll be able to recollect warm and precious memories of your youth, sitting on the sofa together with your beloved. Moreover, your life experience and memories create your future vision of the world, because the points you find in yourself right now are the result of your actions and thoughts. Traveling will teach you to develop the skills on how to live an interesting life and strengthen your relationship.</span></span></div> </h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">2. New experiences</span></span></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Traveling can both teach you and inspire you to get out of your comfort zone. It can help you share unforgettable moments with the person you adore. This interesting and inspiring activity fills your hearts with new experiences and broadens your horizons. Moreover, you may experience the wonder of seeing various worlds’ miracles. Plus, you may get new skills when you try to do something you’ve never done before.</span></span></div> <div> <br /></div> </h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">3. Freedom</span></span></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">Every person creates their own world around themselves. Their world consists of their home, work, circle of contacts, daily schedules and problems. When you travel, you get away from your troubles and enjoy the beauty of the world around. You are free to behave the way you like and do things you adore. It’s better to do it together with the person you love. No one will judge you and your new style of life. Your significant other can even open up to you.</span></h2> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">4. Lots of fun</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">Traveling is a perfect way to relax and enjoy each other’s company. When traveling, you have the right to postpone everything that can affect your relationship. You’re welcome to create amazing moments and adventures. You’ll always look back to these wonderful moments with a frank smile on your face. This world is full of places, which can help you have lots of fun and receive a big portion of happiness. Fun times can replace your negative outlook by a more positive one and it will help to strengthen your relationship.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">5. Learning something new together</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">When you and your partner travel together, both of you can learn something new about the world. You visit different places and enjoy spectacular sights. This exciting experience can intensify your passion and love. When visiting different countries, you can learn about cultures and the history of many nations. It will make both of you more knowledgeable and all-rounded people. This way of spending time with your beloved will guarantee you new emotions and a long, healthy relationship.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">6. Traveling inspires you to face life again</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">The main purpose of traveling is to refresh your mind and get you ready to face the life with a smile on your face. Its revitalizing effect reduces stress and helps both of you get rid of depressive moods and develop positive thinking. You’ll be full of positive emotions and memories about the place or country you visit. I believe that traveling together can help heal a relationship, if you still feel love running in your veins.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">7. It invites romance</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Traveling can bring you majestic and unbelievably wondrous evenings full of satisfaction and romance. You’ll have an opportunity to focus on each other and enjoy the moments spent together somewhere far from your home. There are many picturesque and romantic places around the world. Just get out of your daily routine and try something new. I’m sure that traveling won’t let your flame die, no matter how low the flame at the present moment is.</span></div> </h2> <br /> <div class="ssba" style="background-image: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.235294); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 17px; margin: 1.5em 0px; orphans: auto; padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;"> Traveling together is a perfect opportunity to revive your private life and fill it with new romantic adventures. Do you know other benefits of traveling together with your significant other? Do you believe traveling together can heal a relationship?</div> </div>

7 Ways Traveling Can Refresh Your Relationship

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20 Myths About Sex. Some About Men. Some About Women. Some Silly. Some Funny. 2 Deadly Serious.

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You can usually find me here at Healthcare Triage but today we are going to head over to the salon for mental floss where I'll be taking to you about 20 myths and misconceptions about sex. Look, fair warning here, this is an episode about sex. If you think that is inappropriate or it is not your thing, probably good idea to turn this off now.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Did you know that it's a myth that there is any correlation between penis size and shoe size? There have been many studies on this amazingly enough and they fail to find any link between the size of a man's shoe and the size of a man's stretched or erect penis. There is also no relationship between his penis and the size of his hands or ears or anything else for that matter. Looking at a shoe will only tell you about his taste in footwear. That is the first of many misconceptions about sex I am going to debunk today.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that the average man has a 7-inch penis. Lets be honest, to study this correctly, you can't ask men how big their penises are. You have to get in there and measure yourself. We found 15 studies that looked at stretched penile size and most of them had an average about five inches. Here in Indiana, the Kinsey Institute studied more than 1600 men and found an average erect penis size was about 5.6 inches. Interestingly, erections brought about by oral sex were larger than erections brought about by manual stimulation. Is that because oral sex causes bigger erections or is it because bigger penises get oral sex? We have no idea.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth wearing a condom makes you last longer. In a study of 500 men from Europe and America, the intravaginal ejaculation latency time was 5.4 minutes. They literally clocked these men with a stop watch. Men 18-30 years old lasted the longest at 6.5 minutes on average dropping to only 4.3 minutes for men over 51. Wearing a condom made no difference nor did whether the men were circumcised. Here Clark Kent's super speed backfires, Aquaman wins.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that you can build up a much bigger load. I am not why so many people care about this but here we go. In 2005, a study of more than 6000 men who provided about 9500 samples was published. Men who waited a week had an average ejaculate volume of 3.7 milliliters. Men who had sex the day before had a volume of 2.3 milliliters. That's a difference of less than a third of a teaspoon. But even men who came earlier that day still produced 2.4 milliliters. So we can imagine that waiting is worth it.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that men want blondes more than brunettes. Sure, there have been some local studies that point to the fact that men say this but they are usually in places where blonde hair is less common. In areas where blonde hair is more common, the preference is not as clear. There is also no correlation in studies between women having blonde hair and having more sexual partners, more sex or more orgasms.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that most women are going hairless these days. Yes it is true that the playboy centerfolds are more likely to have little or no pubic hair in recent years. But that's a skewed sample. A 2010 survey or more than 2400 women found that only 11% of women aged 18-68 remove all of their hair most of the time, 20% remove no hair at all, and only about a quarter remove their pubic hair some of the time. Going bare is somewhat related to age with 21% of 18- to 24-year-olds shaving it all off versus 9% of women in their 30s or 2% of women over 50. Bottom line though, is that the majority of women of all ages keep some hair down there.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that bigger breasts are less sensitive than smaller breasts. Some people have argued that bigger breasts have longer nerves to get to the skin and that this makes them feel less. Of course, then taller women will have less sensitivity too and no one makes that argument. The evidence for this comes from studies that ask women if they could feel hair-like filaments of different sizes on their breasts. There were differences but no woman ever defines sensitivity during sex as the ability to feel a single hair. Besides, no one argues that men with smaller penises derive more pleasure than men with large penises.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that sex is great exercise. Yeah it burns off some calories, but most people aren't active for that long. 30 minutes of sex might burn off 85-150 calories, but remember the average intravaginal ejaculation latency time I mentioned before not even close. The time that sex is aerobic where your heart rate goes up is even shorter.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Despite what you have learned from our highway scientific competitor madmen, it's a myth that all men cheat or that there is a difference between men and women. If you define cheating as intercourse then yeah, men cheat more often. If you broaden it to include other acts, then women cheat pretty much as often as men. Surprisingly, age doesn't seem to be a factor either. The most comprehensive study we've seen showed that 23% of men and 19% of women had cheated in their current relationship. The biggest predictor was being unhappy or incompatible in terms of sexual attitudes or values.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that men peak sexually long before women. What does this peak mean anyway? If you define it to be the frequency of sex, then both men and women are likely to go without it for a whole year during their 20s. If we define by masturbation, they are both most likely to do it in their late 20s. If we define it by oral sex, men are most likely to get it in their late 20s and give it in their 30s. Women are most likely to give and receive it in their late 20s. If we define sex at least four times a week, its 30s or 40s for men and late 20s for women. There is no metric that make this myth true. Speaking of sexual peaks, did you ever wonder if spider man was a metaphor for going through puberty?</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that young men are more likely to ejaculate prematurely. If we define that as climaxing too early, then studies have shown that 30% of 18- to 29-year-olds have an issue but so do 32% of men in 30s, 28% of men in their 40s and 32% of men in their 50s. For most men, it is a transient issue that goes away. For men with severe and life-long premature ejaculation, it actually worsens as men age.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that men think about sex every 7 seconds. This one defies belief. It would be sex, sex, sex all day. That would be more than 57,000 times a day. It's pretty much every time you take a breath. Over 40% of men report thinking about sex only a few times a month or a few times a week. 4% of men think about sex less than once a month. There is no truth to this one at all.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that married people don't masturbate. Lots and lots of people masturbate. A study of college students found that 98% of males and 44% of females reported to having masturbated. Males average 12 times a month and females average five. A study of married people found that 85% of men and 45% of women had masturbated in the last year.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that dead males can develop erections. Who comes up with this stuff? Anyway, do an Internet search and you are bound to come up with a new story about a woman in Missouri who worked at a mortuary and was arrested after becoming pregnant from a cadaver she well worked on. It's a hoax. It's also a hoax of the idea that a cadaver could develop an erection, can't happen. If you die flaccid, you are flaccid for good. It is possible to die with an erection though, and keep it. It actually occurred pretty often in men who died by hanging. You still can't cause a dead body to ejaculate though.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that only males have wet dreams. First of all, let's stipulate that a wet dream is a state of sexual arousal while asleep that result in orgasm that wakes you up. More than one study has found that about 40% of females report having had this happen to them. About 30% of females report this happening in the last year. The numbers for men are higher but women aren't doing too badly.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that masturbating will make you go blind. I mean come on. If this were true, you too would be a total waste of time because almost none of you would be able to see the videos. This is just totally untrue. But here is a fine fact, John Harvey Kellogg was a famous nutritionist and sexual advisor. He developed a number of foods including his eponymous corn flakes to reduce sexual desire and stop masturbation. I don't think they work.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that the pills make you gain weight. When the pill was first developed, it contained very high levels of both estrogen and progesterone. But the pill as it exists today is much more refined and contains far lower levels of hormones. A meta analysis by the Cochrane Collaboration found 49 studies that compared the pill to placebo and other pills with respect to weight gain. None of the studies that compared the pill to placebo showed that birth control pills cause weight gain. I am not saying you are guaranteed not to gain weight if you go into pill but it is likely not because of the pill. This pill full of candy will make you gain weight. It still won't make your kids hyper, though.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that you can game having a boy or girl by how you have sex. You just can't. Some people say that X sperm are bigger than y-sperm because the X chromosome is significantly bigger than the Y chromosome. Therefore, if ejaculation occurs further from cervix, Y sperm has a better chance of overtaking the X sperm and making it to the egg first. So, if you want a girl go for a deep ejaculation. If you want a boy, do the opposite. Another explanation has it that X sperm are hardier than Y sperm. So, if you ejaculate further from the cervix, X sperm are more likely to make it all the way to the egg first. If this is true, if you want a boy, go for a deep ejaculation. If you want a girl, do the opposite or just recognize that all of this is ridiculous.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It's a myth that you don't need the HPV vaccine until you are having sex. First of all, you need to be fully vaccinated before you are ever exposed to HPV for the vaccine to work and that takes time. So, once you have had sex, maybe too late. HPV is really common so is sex. By the end of their teenage years, more than three-quarters of all adolescents have engaged in sexual intercourse. More than two-thirds of them have had sex with at least two people. More than 6% of children in the United States have sexual intercourse before the age of 13 and younger kids are the least likely to use protection. The HPV vaccine is about prevention, get it early.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">And we return to this a lot to talk about the myth that the HPV vaccine encourages girls to have sex. This has been studied throughout a cohort of almost 1400 girls, 493 received the vaccine. Researchers followed them for 3 years after immunization to see if there were any differences in sexual outcomes. There weren't any. The girls who got the vaccine did get any more sexually transmitted infections. They didn't get pregnant more often and they didn't seek contraceptive counseling more. The HPV vaccine only protected them.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Thanks for watching mental_floss on YouTube, which is made with the help of all of these nice people. Again, I am Dr. Aaron Carroll and if you like this episode, you might want to buy our recently published book, "Don't Put That in There and 69 Other Sex Myths Debunked." You can get it in book stores everywhere and links from the text below. Buy a copy I would really appreciate it. You can also find me regularly on Healthcare Triage filmed right over there. We talk about everything health and health policy-related links also down below.</span></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 0.7em;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Every week we endeavor to answer one of your mind blowing questions. This week's question comes from meshay13 who asks, "Why is there no metric version of time like a base 10 time system or something?" Well, meshay, there is, but no one uses it. It uses base units that are somewhat equivalent to decimal divisions of the day like one-tenth, one-hundreth, one-thousandth, etc. Lots of different names have been proposed for these divisions like Tick, Mec, Ki, Chron and Moment. In 1897, in France, a committee proposed switching to metric time but the idea never gained popularity. Thanks again for watching. Don't forget to be awesome. Remember to wear a condom.</span></div> <center style="box-sizing: border-box; text-align: left;"> <em style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); box-sizing: border-box;">There may be small errors in this transcript.</em></center> </div> </div> </div> </div>

20 Myths About Sex. Some About Men. Some About Women. Some Silly. Some Funny. 2 Deadly Serious.

20 Myths About Sex. Some About Men. Some About Women. Some Silly. Some Funny. 2 Deadly Serious.   Phoebe Gavin As much as people ...

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The Wealth of Premarital Counseling – Don’t go without it!

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="full-post-img" style="border: 2px solid rgb(129, 132, 134); margin: 0px auto; outline: invert none 0pt; padding: 3px; text-align: left; width: 510px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: none; color: black; font-weight: bold; margin: 0pt; outline: none !important; padding: 0pt; text-decoration: none;"><a href="http://www.girldefined.com/purpose-girl" style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: none; font-weight: bold; margin: 0pt; outline: none !important; padding: 0pt; text-decoration: none;"><img alt="Photo" height="357" src="http://www.girldefined.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Slider.Image_.Just_.Liza_..000.jpg" style="border: none; margin: 0pt; outline: none !important; padding: 0pt;" width="510" /></a></span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Grace and Derrick were so in love. Preparations for their wedding were underway and they just could not wait. They were so excited. A friend asked if they had gone for counseling and they were horrified. Counseling?! For what? They were in love; they had no ‘issues’, everything was going just fine. Counseling was for those who had ‘issues’, right? WRONG!</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Every couple preparing for marriage should plan to spend MANY hours with a good, professional counselor. Contrary to the popular belief that counseling is for those who have problems, just as Grace and Derrick thought, counseling provides much needed guidance and enlightenment on the way ahead.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Let me put it this way, premarital counseling is the mandatory skills training you need in preparation for marriage. It is just like training in an important skill. Imagine needing an operation and finding yourself on the table with a ‘surgeon’ who tells you he has never been trained, he has just watched several operations and is confident he can operate you successfully, you would jump off the table and run for your life, wouldn’t you? The fact that you have watched many marriages does not mean you know how to do this marriage thing. Granted marriage is a ‘learn on the job’ kind of thing, like any vocation, you need some training and you are better off with some guidance before you embark on it.  </span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">By the time adults reach marriageable age, you would expect them to know themselves well and be relatively mature in the way they behave, relate, respond, and make decisions. But you and I know that is not to be taken for granted; it depends largely on how an individual has been brought up and how much care they have taken to develop themselves as individuals. Unfortunately maturity does not come with age. Recently a cousin of mine, whom I had advised to go for counseling, wrote to tell me he had discovered (in counseling) what temperament he is, he explained that it was because he is a sanguine that he did not keep in touch regularly. I was surprised that he had just discovered his temperament but was glad he now felt some kind of liberation from the knowledge he had gained.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Counseling helps individuals to get to know themselves, their personalities, their strengths and their weaknesses. This is information that is vital for partners hoping to live together happily ever after – to know yourself well and know your partner as well. It enhances understanding which is an important ingredient for a happy marriage.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">After a counselor has helped you understand who you are and why you do the things you do the way you do them, they will then help you both to see how you fit with each other in the context of your relationship – soon to be marriage. Courtship provides us with an opportunity to get to know one another well but sometimes we do not even know what questions we should be asking and counseling gives the guidance that couples need to get to know each other better in preparation for a close relationship in marriage. Good premarital counseling helps couples examine together their varying backgrounds, their views, opinions about and experience with elements vital to marriage like values, sex, family relationships, money etc.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Jason and Mildred got married not long after they had got to know each other. They did not see any use for counseling; actually Mildred was advised to go for counseling but Jason refused to go. Today, after three stormy years in marriage, they are receiving counseling. Their counselor says she is taking them through ‘pre-marital counseling’. ‘If only they had dealt with these issues before they got married’, she says, ‘they would not have had the challenges they have had that have caused them both so much pain.’ Thankfully they have chosen counseling and working at it over going their separate ways. </span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Having understood who you are, how you fit together, you are then ready to be guided into the complex relationship called marriage. Premarital counseling examines expectations, roles and responsibilities in marriage, sex, money, parenting, in laws etc. It not only helps you to discuss these and other important elements but also gives you guidance on how to handle them and what discussions and decisions you need to make as a couple to handle them well in your marriage.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Counseling can only be effective if a couple gives it enough time, it is pointless trying to cram a couple of counseling sessions in between wedding meetings and <i>Gusaba</i> and all the other ceremonies that fill the period prior to marriage. A few years ago, I interviewed a Pastor who had a requirement in his church that a couple had to go through counseling starting six months before they planned to get married. I agree with him. You need time to work through and to make it work for you. Needless to say, it is pointless for one person to be receiving counseling alone without their fiancée; you need to be working together – just as you will do in marriage.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Another important point to note is a couple needs to be open and willing to learn and adjust as they go through counseling. These are also important attitudes in marriage so you better start early!</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Let me point out that a couple should be willing to call off a relationship if they discover during counseling that they are ill fitted for each other. It is better to break an engagement than a marriage. Maybe we would have less separation and broken marriages if couples had good premarital counseling. A counselor should be able to advise against a relationship if he/she realizes the couple they are dealing with would do better going their separate ways. That calls for a remarkable level of professionalism and commitment to a couple so make sure you find a counselor who has those qualities. Remember do not spend time and money preparing for a wedding and forget to prepare for the marriage. Your marriage will thank you!</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">And if you missed pre-marital counseling for whatever reasons or had it but feel your marriage needs some help, guidance or support, do not hesitate to go for marriage counseling as a couple.</span></div> <div> <br /></div> </div>

The Wealth of Premarital Counseling – Don’t go without it!

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When You're In a Good Relationship, You Learn These 10 Things

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> -By Allison Renner<br /> <div class="headline group" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(223, 223, 223); border-bottom-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: -8px 0px 10px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <a class="print-article print-link" href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/allison-renner/when-youre-in-a-good-relationship-you-learn-these-10-things_b_5618826.html?page_version=legacy&view=print&comm_ref=false" rel="nofollow" style="background-image: url(http://s1.huffpost.com/images/v/authors_follow_icons.png); background-position: -80px 0px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; float: right; height: 17px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none; text-indent: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 20px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Print Article</span></span></a></div> <div class="main-visual group embedded-image" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; direction: ltr; float: left; margin: 0px 20px 10px auto; padding: 0px; position: relative; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline; width: 570px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><img alt="HAPPY COUPLE" class="" data-img-path="http://i0.huffpost.com/gen/1931225/thumbs/n-HAPPY-COUPLE-large570.jpg" src="http://i0.huffpost.com/gen/1931225/thumbs/n-HAPPY-COUPLE-large570.jpg" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; margin: 0px; max-width: 100%; opacity: 1; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" /></span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></div> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><br /></span></span></h1> <h1 class="title" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">When You're in a good Relationship, You Learn These 10 Things</span></h1> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I'd had serious relationships before meeting my fiancé, with a couple lasting for years. I thought I was an adult; I thought I knew how to be a great girlfriend. Meeting someone I had a serious connection with taught me that nothing I had experienced before was real. True love feels different than casual relationships -- even if those relationships lasted for years (which is usually well past their expiration date!). When you're in a good relationship, you learn things. You act differently and you think as part of a team -- not as an individual making their way through the world. You'll be more understanding and accepting of your partner, instead of just getting frustrated with them, like you may have with past relationships.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. Misunderstandings are inevitable.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Misunderstandings are going to happen. If you take your partner's words one way, then learn they meant something totally different, don't punish him or her. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only going to bruise the relationship and cause communication problems later. Sometimes what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and you'll get frustrated that your partner doesn't understand. Take a step back and realize it's not a big deal. Misunderstandings only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be laid-back and forgive misunderstandings.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Trust.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />You have to trust your partner. Why would you share your life with someone when you think they're doing something wrong every time you turn your back? If you don't trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring or anything else, then you're not in a good relationship. The best relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up (and they will!), the trust is strong enough to keep you together.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Let yourselves miss each other.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />You're in love, so you want to be together all the time! It's so fun to cuddle all night and be together all day, but when will you have time to experience different things? When you go to separate work places or schools, you're experiencing things that will give you something to talk about later. When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, then you're having time and space to yourself, then coming back to each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">4. Encourage growth and change.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live -- you should explore it to the fullest! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give this support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you're going to have a very boring life together.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5. Compromising doesn't mean you're weak.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Compromising doesn't mean "giving in." It doesn't mean that you lost the fight. In fact, it's the opposite. Do you know how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way because it sounds right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base with their suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. What's the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don't be afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The important thing is not getting your way, it's staying in your relationship and helping it grow. Compromising will definitely help your relationship grow.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">6. Admit your weaknesses.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Your partner doesn't expect you to be a superhero, and hopefully you don't expect that of them! We're all human; we all have flaws. It's OK to let these show. In fact, to have a stable, serious relationship, you need to let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more sensitive to things that bother you, and can help build you up in areas where you need some help.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">7. Sometimes you can only accept things, not fix them.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />People have baggage. You have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope! You're stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that sometimes, you can't fix things. You can't make problems go away. You have to accept it and get over it and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">8. Forgive quickly and truly.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Whenever you have a fight, don't worry about who wins or who loses. Learn from the fight -- from what was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That's all well and good, but you're not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over, you're past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner, because the resentment will build until you don't want to be with them.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">9. Never expect anything.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Don't expect your partner to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It's not going to happen. You can't expect anything from anyone -- you have to make your desires known. Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you, but still -- don't expect anything!</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">10. Show your feelings.</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play games. Don't tease your partner; don't "reward" good deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them -- it doesn't matter -- they just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don't get me wrong. But make sure you're showing your feelings in a way so they won't be misunderstood (back to #1!).</span></div> <div> <br /></div> </div>

When You're In a Good Relationship, You Learn These 10 Things

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10 Most Important Things to Know about Relationships

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="entry-text" style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <h1 class="entry-title" style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 10px 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: small;">By Olga Kachma</span></h1> </div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">A happy and successful relationship is something that every couple strives for. At the very beginning of our love affair we are generally overwhelmed with passion and excitement and it seems our affection will last forever and nothing can spoil our ideal relations with the one we love. But when we move to the next stage, we face numerous problems like misunderstanding, distrust, jealousy and finally quarrels. All these things may happen if both partners are not experienced enough and their perception of love is rather distorted. In order to be happy together, you and your sweetheart should be aware of certain things that will help you to build a perfect and long lasting relationship. Here are some of the most crucial rules that every couple must always keep in mind.</span><img alt="Important Things You and Your Partner Should Know about Relationship " class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-24687" height="334" src="http://cdn2.amerikanki.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Most-Important-Things-about-Relationships.jpg?1f3802" style="border: 0px; display: block; margin: 0px auto; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 9px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" width="500" /></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">1. Communicate Clearly</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Every time you communicate with your significant other, don’t forget to speak your mind clearly. You love each other and there must not be any secrets between the two of you. That is the basic rule you should stick to. Sometimes we don’t express our thoughts and desires, expecting that our partner can guess what we want to say. Unfortunately, they are not able to read our mind, so it is necessary to tell them everything distinctly, without any hints. This way, you will avoid unwanted troubles that may have a negative impact on your relationship.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">2. Learn to Forgive Each Other</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">If you plan future with your lover, you should certainly be ready to forgive one another. Otherwise, your happiness will not last for a long time. There are no perfect people in this world and everyone can be mistaken sometimes. Surely, it doesn’t mean you should easily forget all his bad deeds, but you also don’t need to hold your grudge for weeks. Instead try to accept your guy’s wrong behavior and forgive him. Your relations will get much better and you’ll enjoy your intimate feelings to the full.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Read also – <a href="http://en.amerikanki.com/tips-forgive-people/" style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">7 Tips on How to Forgive Other People</a></strong></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">3. Everyone Has Bad Days</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It’s not a secret that all people can have hard days during which they feel depressed or even angry. So, you must consider this fact in order to prevent stressful situations with your boyfriend. When you see he is nervous, try to find out the reason of his stress and don’t get offended quickly. Perhaps your partner’s emotional state is caused by various problems connected with his job or friends. Sometimes we can wake up in a bad mood. At such moments everybody and everything annoy us. If you have noticed that your guy is irritated, it would be better for you to give him private space and leave him alone for some time. Don’t take it personally.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">4. Be Kind to Your Partner</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Kindness is highly appreciated by all people. Undoubtedly, a kind person appears more attractive and pleasant for others. Being kind is necessary to achieve a mutual understanding and harmony with those who surround us. Nowadays our life is very busy and we often forget about kindness and its great power. Actually, you don’t have to spend much time to display your kind attitude to the one you love. In my opinion, kindness is one of the easiest ways to improve any relationship and reach a compromise with a partner. After all, it’s never late to start being kind.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">5. The Value of Commitment</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">There is no true love without commitment. This is the most efficient way to express your feelings to your significant other. You can use hundreds of words to describe your love, however, when you commit to your man, he will see that you are sincere with him and how much he is precious for you. Thus, every couple should realize the importance of commitment in their relationship. It will allow you to rely on your partner whatever happens and that is the key to a long lasting relationship.</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Read also – <a href="http://en.amerikanki.com/ways-make-him-fall-love-with-you/" style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">8 Best Ways to Make Him Fall in Love with You</a></strong></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">6. Laughing Together is Helpful</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Everybody knows that laughter is enormously beneficial for our health and our mood either. When it comes to our relationship the role of laughter can’t be overestimated. Is there anything more wonderful than the ability of two people who love one another to laugh together? I’m convinced that all couples go through rough times once in a while. Laughing together is a fantastic solution for you whenever you argue with your sweetheart. It will relieve the tension and you’ll feel relaxed.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">7. Not to Quarrel in Front of Others</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Quarrels and disagreements are an indispensable part of every healthy relationship. Therefore, you should expect that sooner or later you’ll be at odds with your partner as it is a common thing. We can hardly imagine a man and a woman whose relations are ideal and who always understand each other. Everything that happens between you and your lover is your own business and you don’t have to demonstrate others your personal life. The less people know about you, the happier you are.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">8. You and Your Partner Can Still Have Friends</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">You shouldn’t exclude yourself from your social circle just to spend time with your sweetheart 24/7. And your partner shouldn’t forget about his friends. You and your partner still have other people who also want to spend time with both of you. You should give one another space to keep your relationship fresh. So make sure you keep up with your family and friends and your partner does the same.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">9. Keep Your Relationship More Private</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">While there’s nothing wrong with posting a few nice pictures here and there on Facebook or Instagram, you and your partner should keep your relationship more private. This means that you shouldn’t post each picture you take. No one wants to see numerous pictures of you kissing each day. Moreover, don’t Tweet about your plans a few times a day. Keeping the relationship more private is the key to a successful relationship.</span></div> <h3 style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">10. Date nights are essential</span></span></h3> <div style="border: 0px; margin-bottom: 9px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It’s extremely important to plan at least one date night a month. Choose the restaurant, or prepare a romantic dinner at home, if you are a little short in cash. Date nights are essential in a successful relationship. Make sure your cellphones are off and no one disturbs you.</span></div> <span class="wp-pagenavi" style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); border: 0px; clear: both; font-weight: bold; margin: 0px; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 10px 0px; text-align: right; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /> <div style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.235294); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; border: 0px; color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 1.7em; margin: 0px 0px 9px; orphans: auto; outline: rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;"> Once you find your man, you will spare no efforts to build a strong relationship with him. Good relationship is impossible without understanding, trust and respect. Happiness with your sweetheart is the result of hard work and patience. These are the most fundamental rules that every couple is supposed to follow in order to be happy and to feel comfortable together. What things do you consider to be the most significant for successful relationships?</div> </div>

10 Most Important Things to Know about Relationships

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