7 Things You Shouldn’t Do When You’re Angry

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt="Things You Shouldn’t Do When You're Angry" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-1852" height="333" src="http://womanitely.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Things-You-Shouldn%E2%80%99t-Do-When-Youre-Angry1.jpg?8fc711" style="font-style: italic; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" width="500" /><br /> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Many wise people believe that anger is nothing more than just a weakness. The feeling of anger can mess your mind and make you take pointless and even risky decisions. It’s extremely important to be more patient when you are angry in order to avoid grief and sorrow in future. It’s scientifically proved that the feeling of anger can seriously damage your mental and physical health, because it produces the same psychological and physiological effects as stress. Furthermore, anger can destroy your social, personal and professional relationships. That’s why you shouldn’t let anger exert negative influence on your life. The best way to avoid mistakes when you’re feeling angry is to calm down and return to the situation when you’re thinking as clearly as you normally do. I hope this article will teach you to manage anger and live in accord with the society.</span></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">1. Post your anger on social media</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Unfortunately, many people tend to use social media in order to vent and broadcast angry information and thoughts to big masses of people. By all means, you shouldn’t post your anger on social networks. It’s not a wise decision to tell the whole world how you feel at the moment, because you’ have the risk to get a negative reputation in the society. Plus, various angry comments can deject your friends’ spirit. Try to accentuate your blessings, not weaknesses.</span></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">2. Make decisions</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">When I want to make a right decision, I prefer to focus on the situation and weigh all advantages and disadvantages. Moreover, it’s desirable to do things when you are calm. If you make a decision under the pressure of anger or other negative feelings, you’ll regret and find them mad or foolish later. It’s of great importance to develop the skill to keep emotions under control when you are dealing with serious life questions. You should draw a line between emotions and your life responsibilities.</span></div> <div> <br /></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">3. Let anger mistreat others</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">You may not notice, but when you’re angry you often take it out on others. Do something to control your feelings, if you don’t want to burn bridges and offend people around you. You may use different breathing techniques, which help to reduce stress and eliminate the feeling of anger. If nothing helps, then try to get away and calm down. I think your circle of contacts shouldn’t suffer from your feelings. Successful and wise people tend to make their bad day better, instead of spoiling mood of those who are around them.</span></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">4. Drive</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">When you’re angry, try to keep out of driving. Research shows that angry people are primed for attack that’s why they are more inattentive and aggressive on the road. Don’t jump in a vehicle when you feel rage or anger running in your veins, because you put yourself and other people in danger. If you experience a stress while driving a car, you should stop for a while and do something to calm down. When your eyes are filled with anger, you may not see a pedestrian crossing the street and you can make a fatal error.</span></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">5. Talk to everyone</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It’s normal to talk your problems and inner conflict out, but you should always share it with trusted people, because others can misunderstand and start gossiping about you and your life. You’d better take some time to blow off some steam and keep calm. Trusted friends can give you a valuable advice on how to get rid of anger and enjoy life. I prefer to go through the moment of anger in private, because the less people know about your worries, the better reputation and private life you’ll have.</span></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">6. Return to bad habits</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I hope everyone knows that anger can break or damage the power of will. If you continue smoking or drinking alcohol, you’ll just get new problems. It’s desirable to find more useful and healthier ways to deal with this terrible feeling. It’s been proved that physical exercise can ward off anger and other bad feelings. If you do physical exercises on a regular basis, you’ll have a chance to increase the level of serotonin. This hormone decreases aggressive behavior and makes you happier.</span></div> <div> <br /></div> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 15px;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">7. Socialize</span></span></h2> <div style="margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-top: 1.5em; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I think it’s difficult to socialize and enjoy the company of people around when you’re full of anger. It’s better to keep the distance until you get a grip of your anger. Otherwise, you can alienate people around you. You can leave positive impression on others only when you learn to suppress this destructive feeling before socializing. Those people who experience less anger and hatred are more successful and socially popular, because people love those who have a frank smile and emit pleasant energy.</span></div> <br /> <div class="ssba" style="background-image: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.235294); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 17px; margin: 1.5em 0px; orphans: auto; padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;"> Anger is a dangerous feeling that can either come in handy or poison your life. Ambrose Bierce once said a magnificent thing, “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” You should be wise enough to process your anger and find a peace of mind. What things do you usually do when you’re angry? How do you deal with the feeling of anger? Share your experiences with us, please.</div> <div style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.235294); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 17px; margin: 1.5em 0px; orphans: auto; padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;"> <br /></div> </div>

7 Things You Shouldn’t Do When You’re Angry

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I No Longer Want To Be Lesbian

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="itemFullText"> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Dear Taiwo,</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I believe I have to speak out so that I can get help. I have been a lesbian for about 12 years and I know that it is high time I stopped. I was innocently initiated into it by my cousin’s friend.</span></div> <center style="height: 0px; margin: auto; overflow: hidden; width: auto;"> <div style="padding-bottom: 5px; padding-top: 10px; text-align: left;"> </div> <div id="ebzNative"> </div> </center> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">My cousin who just got married and resides in the city needed my help. She was in her first trimester and her husband needs to travel out of the country, my aunt asked me to stay with her because there was no one else available,  also because I had just finished my Senior Secondary School examinations and I had nothing doing.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I gladly went to the city, because she was my favourite cousin and I know that I would really enjoy myself with her. I never knew destiny had something else in stock for me. </span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">When I arrived at her house, I met a friend of hers who was already helping her before I came. I later learnt that she arrived from Italy few days before I came in from the village. When I saw the situation on ground, I saw that instead of helping my cousin, she was more or less adding to her burden.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">She would seat and wait for her to make food, she couldn’t  help tidy the house and she was always smoking and drinking alcohol. I made up my mind to help my cousin and that was what I did. I really couldn’t say if the fact that I was hard working as she claimed actually endeared me to her as she said or the fact that she found me attractive as she later said.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">It all began one day when my cousin went to work, her friend called me into her room and told me she liked the fact that I was hard working and also that my skin was fair even without the use of any bleaching cream.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">She started stroking my arm. Initially, I thought nothing of it, but when it turned into a caress, I made to leave the room. She was stronger and she said I should calm down as I will enjoy what she wanted to teach me.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I wasn’t stupid enough not to know about sex, I was 16, but I was naïve, I didn’t know anything about homosexuality or lesbianism. In fact, I was a virgin. She moved her hand gradually from my arm and cupped my breast and fondled my nipples. I became aroused. I really couldn’t describe the feeling then, but I can say now that I know better.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">While she was at it, although, I enjoyed what I felt, but inside of me, I knew something was not right. I told her that, and then she asked if I had a boyfriend. I told her I was a virgin. She replied that what she was about to teach me will allow me to enjoy sexual pleasures without getting pregnant.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">That was how it all started and she warned me not to tell my cousin she would not like it. She also made me realise that my sister got herself knocked up by a man who might probably be enjoying himself with another woman where he was.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">She made me see the bad side of men, I had no choice than to tow her line and believe her because even my own father didn’t help matters, as he always maltreated my mother and was irresponsible. She would give me gifts and I would sneak into her room at night. Eventually, I moved into her room and we began our affairs without inhibition.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">My cousin didn’t know that anything was going on, she only said it once that my relationship with her friend was more cordial, she liked it that way because it made things easier at home.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Without realising it, I became addicted to making love with my cousin’s friend, in fact, without knowing it; she deflowered me in the heat of passion one night. She thought me how to give her pleasure and she also did same to me.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">At the initial stage, I didn’t really hate boys, I still had male admirers, but whenever my cousin’s friend saw me with any of the boys in the locality, she gets very angry. Sometimes, she would offer me expensive gifts. </span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">We were into each other so much that I didn’t go home to see my mother when she fell ill. I got admission into the Polytechnic and she more or less footed all my bills. By this time, she had rented her own apartment and she used to travel to Italy to bring in clothes, shoes and accessories for sale.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I was one of the best dressed in school, courtesy my cousins friend and gradually she began to introduce me to some of her other friends. I also got connected with girls like me in school. I am pretty, so I was never shot of admirers; in fact a lot of them courted me with money and other goodies.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">By the time I finished my Ordinary National Diploma (OND), my mother had started asking me to bring a suitor home. She didn’t know that I was into women. During my one year attachment, she took me to Italy with her, and unfortunately, I was introduced to hard drugs.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">By the time I went back to school for my Higher National Diploma (HND), I have become a big girl and into a lot of vices. My mother and cousin and even my siblings wanted to know the source of my wealth, but I never told them.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I have finished school and I am into business now, all courtesy of my contacts and network. Sincerely, I am living well. Being the first child of my family, my mother especially is on my neck to bring home a man and get married. The unfortunate thing, however, is that such is the last thing on my mind. </span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">My refusal to bring a man home, is equally delaying my sisters marriage. The turnaround for me however was what happened to a friend and mate of mine few weeks ago. Two of them, had a quarrel over a trivial issue and they stabbed themselves and bled to death. My cousin’s friend who also introduced me to the sexual preference has also become a shadow of herself.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Plus the fact that my mother weeps every time she sees me. I really desire to have a changed lifestyle, but I don’t know how to. I can’t open up publicly about my life style because I already have a name. Please, if you know how I can get help, I will really appreciate it</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Anonymous.</span></div> <div style="margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><b><span style="font-size: x-small;">(Culled from Tribune Newspaper)</span></b></span></div> </div> <div class="itemContentFooter" style="border-top-color: rgb(221, 221, 221); border-top-style: solid; border-top-width: 1px; margin: 16px 0px 4px; padding: 4px; text-align: left;"> Please, scroll down to give your comment/advice here. You will be helping to give this sister and Nigerian a new life.</div> <div class="clr" style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.235294); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #f8f8f8; border: none; clear: both; color: black; display: block; float: none; font-family: lato, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; height: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 0; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> </div>

I No Longer Want To Be Lesbian

Dear Taiwo, I believe I have to speak out so that I can get help. I have been a lesbian for about 12 years and I know that it is high t...

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